Feed on

You’ll know how annoying it can be if you’re having a conversation with someone and that person isn’t giving you their full attention.  There are obvious give-away signs, like their eyes wandering here, there and everywhere, rather than looking at you.  Or they start to say “yes” and “no” at inappropriate times.  Or, worse still, they don’t respond at all.  You know it’s time to politely end the conversation – or maybe ask them a question to put the attention back on them.

Is He Listening?

By the way, if this happens to you a lot, perhaps you should ask yourself if you do ‘go on’ a bit – or maybe your audience just doesn’t have your superior intellect! And of course it works both ways.  Are you a good listener?

So How Does Listening Relate to Raising Great Kids?

I believe that being able to really listen is a great skill and one that many of us never learn.  It’s an important skill that is often overlooked when raising great kids.

Of course, being a good listener isn’t just about listening, it’s also about getting involved in the conversation, giving feedback and asking questions that will encourage the other person to continue speaking.

We know that children learn a great deal from their parents and there’s a good chance that if a child’s parents have been good listeners, then the child will grow up to be a good listener.  On the other hand, if a child has grown up with parents who just don’t listen, then they’ll likely grow up the same way.  Raising great kids who are also great listeners has got to be the better option.

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But there’s more to it than that

How does it make you feel when you have a really good conversation with somebody?  It makes you feel good, right?  Well, it’s no different for our kids.  If they have something important to say and they know Mom or Dad will take the time to listen, there will always be healthy family communication.

What your child has to say might not always be good, but if they are used to talking openly with you on all issues, they are more likely to keep you informed if something goes wrong.  A parent can hardly blame a child for not telling them something, if they make a habit of never really listening to their child on other issues.

Does that mean I have to stop what I’m doing and really listen, every time my child wants to speak?

Of course not.  Most of the time families just chat together – in the car, while Mom’s making dinner, while you’re out walking or playing together.  That’s not what I’m talking about here.  I’m talking about those times when your child really desires your attention because they have something important to tell you.  It might not seem that important to you, but if it’s important to your child then it’s worth stopping what you’re doing and giving it your full attention. Your child will feel like an important part of the family, whose opinions and thoughts are valued.

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What do you think?

As always, these are just my own thoughts and ideas on raising great kids.  You may have a different or similar opinion to me.  In either case I’d love to hear from you – we all learn by sharing ideas.

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Thanks for reading Raising Great Kids blog.

Jan Littlehales.

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4 Responses to “Raising Great Kids – Listening”

  1. Great article Jan. I personally really like your site.

    As a parent to get reminders and tips keeps my skills as their guardian in the fore front of my mind. Sometimes life gets so busy that I find myself thinking of my children though I do need to think – Am I being the best parent I can be?

    This includes stopping what I am doing and yes really listening and watching their body language while they are talking to me.

    They are so small for such a short period of time that each day counts. They are such special little people.

    Thanks so much for your reminders Jan.
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  2. Great to hear that you’re enjoying my blog Cherie. Yes, our children are small for such a short period of time – my boys are now 15 and 18 – but of course they never stop being special.

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  4. Thanks for the ideas you discuss through this blog.

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