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Welcome to Raising Great Kids.  I am so pleased to bring this website to you and hope you’ll enjoy reading my posts.

Now, right off the bat, I do not claim to be an expert at raising great kids.  I have no formal qualifications in the ‘raising kids’ department, but I do have two boys that I raised – and I think they’re great kids.  As this website evolves, I hope to explore many of the contributing factors to raising great kids and, with your contributions, attempt to identify the real core principles as well.

There are Great Kids all around

Just take a look around – there are great kids everywhere.  In the street where you live, at the shops, in school playgrounds, at the beach, on the buses and trains, at church, riding bikes, playing sports, at the cinema – literally everywhere there are great kids.  If you go on holiday, to just about anywhere in the world, there are great kids there too.

Great Kid with Soccer BallSo raising great kids can’t be based purely on where you live, or the climate, or your religion, or the clothes you wear, or the food you eat – although I’ll admit that living in a prosperous country, where food, water and shelter can be taken for granted has got to be a plus.  But great kids can be found in the poorest countries in the world.  Does this mean that raising great kids doesn’t have anything to do with wealth?  I think having enough money to do exciting things with your children is certainly a bonus, but I don’t believe it’s at the real core.

Ask yourself this Question

Question MarkWhat would YOU say are the three main contributing factors that made YOU a great kid?

I asked myself this question and it really got me thinking.  The first two came to mind quickly and I was able to expand on them easily (it was quite exciting actually, looking back at what things had really made a difference to me when I was young).  I’m still thinking about a third, by the way.  I’m happy to share my thoughts with you and I’d love to share some of yours.  You can leave comments at the bottom of this post, or email me if you’d prefer to keep them more private.  You’ll find my contact details on the Contact page.

How I Answered the Question

Here goes – I’ll keep it relatively short – in summarized form:-

First – My Mom – Unconditional love – forgiving – easy to be with – predictable – could always count on – always happy to help – welcomed my friends – never criticized – taught me to knit – took me places – patient – loving – and kind – my Mom was terrific!

Second – My Grandad – We sang together regularly, sitting on his couch – we danced together too – helped him in the veggie garden – helped him build a huge greenhouse – later, filled with tomatoes, he let me be in charge of watering them -  he let me collect the eggs from under the hens – he took my sister and me for drives in his car most weekends – he encouraged me to play piano – he let me have lollies from his lolly jar – my Grandad also had most of my Mom’s qualities – he was terrific too!

Raising Great Kids – Interesting Observations

Some interesting observations here.  But, hey, these are only my thoughts.  Please send me your own thoughts and ideas and between us I think we can start getting to the real core principles of raising great kids.

Here are my observations from points 1 and 2 above:-

  • Male and female (coincidence?)
  • No mention of any material things
  • Being trusted with responsibilities
  • Being involved
  • Having fun
  • Being loved
  • Treated like an individual
  • Encouraged to learn new things

I’m starting to get excited about this raising great kids website now.  I have a real sense of direction and believe I might even become a better parent myself from writing it.  What an unexpected bonus!

I’m looking forward to reading your comments.  Everyone is welcome to comment, but if  you’re a blogger yourself, don’t forget to include your URL  in the comment box below and CommentLuv will find your latest blog post.

Jan Littlehales
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11 Responses to “Welcome to Raising Great Kids Blog”

  1. Wal Heinrich says:

    I have always believed that honesty is the best policy. So if my kids asked me a question I would always give them a truthful answer (so long as it was age appropriate). My older daughter said to me as an adult, ‘Daddy, I know I can always trust you because when I was a little girl and I asked you if Santa Claus was real you said ‘no’ while everyone else said yes. Years later I discovered that you were the only one telling the truth’. Today we have a wonderful relationship enhanced by that special trust we share.

    .-= Wal Heinrich´s last blog ..Profile =-.

  2. What a wonderful story Wal. Thank you so much for sharing it. I agree that honesty is crucial in a parent/child relationship. If we give truth, then we get truth back – and being able to trust one another is at the heart of any good relationship. A future post in the making here. Thanks Wal.

  3. Tom says:

    Interesting post, particularly to reflect on my own upbringing. I find some similarities between your observations and my own. A couple of things to add:

    - while material things weren’t a primary focus for me, I was taught the value of money via pocket money and such games as Monopoly;
    - the encouragement of learning was an important factor. Kids are like sponges – they just soak up whatever is around them. I was definitely encouraged to learn things and be creative in my learning and the various projects I was working on. I was a Montessori child, and definitely happy to be one: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Montessori_method

  4. Dino says:

    This is a topic I am quite passionate about, and I look forward to hearing more about it from you.

    I too have 2 kids, a girl and a boy, and I think they’re great :) They have grown up in a completely different environment and world than I did though, and I find the factors that influence how kids turn out fascinating.

    In particular, there’s always been debate over the nurture/nature issue, however there’s a great book that questions that debate – it’s “The Nurture Assumption” by Judith Harris and is a worth a read.
    .-= Dino´s last blog ..dinus: Interesting experiment: Reporters put Twitter, Facebook to ‘Big Brother’ test http://bit.ly/68FXnc =-.

  5. Thank you Tom. I totally agree with your comments. I too used to play Monopoly for hours with my sister and brother – we played chess too. And, yes, kids are like sponges – they soak up everything – good and bad. Tom, you have given me two wonderful ideas for future posts here. Thank you.

  6. Dino – thank you for your comments. You’ve made me think about the fact that my husband and I were both brought up in the UK – me in a very small country village….a long way from Sydney, where our two sons have been brought up. I’ll check out The Nurture Assumption – it does sound interesting. Thank you.

  7. Cherie Rasmussen says:

    Great website and article Jan.

    We have two wonderful boys and everyday they make my day. To grow up in a safe positive environment, full of encouragement and love is a two way exchange. They have the smile and I have a full heart.

    Kids are our future generation that need to be nurtured and valued for the Great Kids they truly are.

  8. Thanks Cherie – you are so right – our children do need to be nurtured and valued. You also mentioned a safe, positive environment, encouragement, love, smile, full heart – all these things and more make being a parent a wonderful gift.

  9. Really interesting question Jan. In fact I think bookstores have a shelf dedicated to answering it. My belief is that a good childhood is a mixture of good parenting which sets guidelines (and where things need to be earned – such as Tom’s comment) And having a good peer group.

    Your kid’s can be the best kids in the world, but if they start mixing in the wrong circles it can spell trouble.
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  10. Great intro post…

    I don’t have any kids – most probably never will but I do share a puppy with my best mate who I also share a house with.

  11. Awesome blog you contained here! Would love to return and browse more of the articles. Continue posting valuable info. Hehe.. Seriously love this site of yours ~. Cheers :)

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